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Let the Bells Ring Out to Welcome 2017 Ringing bells is a tradition so ancient that for millennia they have heralded news and celebration. Bells are so common that we nearly take them for granted. It wasn't always so. Bells once had jobs so important that entire cities depended on their voice to organize the hours, including calls to rise, work, worship, and retire. In fact, according to bellringing.org, bells were often invested with a certain awe. In pastoral medieval settings, humans did not make loud sounds. Only the great rumbling and cracking of the sky, evoked goosebumps. So the mighty voice of a bell was thrilling and it had great power to command the faithful and put fear into enemies. China is usually credited with founding the first bells around 3000 to 2000 BC. Early bells were mostly ceramic, but by 1000 BC, China had perfected bronze bells which were used for matters great and small -- on dog collars and in sacred ceremony. The largest bell in existence today is probably the Tsar Bell, on display on the grounds of the Kremlin in Moscow. This bronze mammoth is 20 feet tall and 22 feet in diameter, weighing more about 445,000 pounds. It is the third and largest Tsar bell, but has never been rung or suspended. Tsar Bells have had a rough history with fire. The first bell was completed in 1600 and lasted more than 100 years, but was destroyed by fire in the mid-17th century. A second, larger bell was cast in 1655 but was destroyed by fire in 1701. The current bell was cast in 1737 just before another Kremlin fire threatened to destroy it. It fell into its 33-foot deep casting pit as the fire ate away the bell supports. It was raised in 1836 and placed on a stone pedestal where it remains today. Health Corner Join or Start a Book Club For some, nothing sparks a great conversation more than a great book. That's why book clubs are popular for meeting people and having meaningful conversations. The bigger your community, the more likely there are a number of book clubs in the area. Book clubs can have themes that appeal to fiction lovers, history buffs, or even to special interests such as True Crime -- a popular type of reading group. You might be surprised at how many book discussion clubs are available. If there isn't a book club in your area, you can always start one. It can be as loose or formal as you wish. Most book clubs are monthly and members vote on titles of the books they will read. But some book clubs allow members to read their own choice of book and present their review to the members. According to litlovers.com, a group of six to ten is best to give everyone a chance to comment on the book of the month. To facilitate discussion, it's best to have books that fall into a general category or topic. Fiction clubs might choose historical fiction or books on the New York Times bestseller lists. Be sure to choose books that fall into a general level of reading interest. For example, a vibrant book group would have similar reading styles. Maybe they all think Pride and Prejudice is a lively read while other groups might prefer science fiction. Organizers can maintain a list of books for the next six months, an email list of members, and choose a member to host the club for the month. The host for the month can offer a dessert or some other small food stuff for the gathering and present questions or quotes from the book as points of discussion.
Reba Susi was born on February 19, 1923, to parents Dalton Dylan and Lilly Kennedy Dylan, in the small town of Oak Hill, Tennessee, a suburb south of Nashville. Her parents had a land lease, and migrated down from Cape Cod, Massachusetts, by way of Virginia, to settle in the area. She was fortunate to have five siblings, including brothers DW, James, and William, and sisters Marie Pugh and Jane Ray. Reba met and married her husband, Samuel Curri, who was the Resident Inspector for Chance Vought Aircraft in Stratford, CT, during World War II. Reba was employed there as a secretary in their Sikorsky division. The Sikorsky is a heavy-duty helicopter designed for civilian, military, and firefighting uses. Reba worked for Vought (United Technologies) for 31 years until her retirement! Some of Reba s favorite life experiences include seeing the Big Band groups of the era perform live. This included Woody Herman, whom she saw in Chicago, and Artie Shaw, who excelled at playing the saxophone and clarinet. She also recalls fondly the amazing opportunity she had in November 1960, of seeing then-massachusetts Senator John F. Kennedy speak in Bridgeport, CT, mere days before being elected President of the United States. She says that her son, Lou, had recently broken his leg, and was walking with crutches. Some of the crew running the event spotted them, and escorted them to almost the very front of the huge crowdso close that Reba said, We could almost reach up and touch him! She remembers vividly his reddish hair and very well tailored suit. Reba relocated to Davis to be closer to her family, and has found the Carlton to be a wonderful place for her to live. Her grandson, Jake, is the Dining Room Manager, and she enjoys the opportunities she has of being with family, and the activities and musical entertainment that are offered. She loves making ceramics and reading, and listening to Big Band, classical, and jazz music. Her favorite meals include Italian dishes and soups, and a slice of cheesecake for dessert! Her favorite movies include Doctor Zhivago and Gone with the Wind. Reba describes herself in three words as caring, generous, positive. She admires Eleanor and Franklin Roosevelt for their services to our nation, and helping to pull a lot of dismayed and hopeless people out of the Great Depression. Reba s husband s family, in fact, created ornamental ironwork for many churches in the region, and even made some of the cast iron cookware that Eleanor personally owned! Reba was able to view it personally when visiting their estate in Hyde Park, New York. Reba admires the staff at the Carlton, stating that, People are nice, and you can never ask for anything they aren t happy to help you with. She would like to offer the verse: do unto others as you would have them do unto you.
Please sign up for the bank, shopping, and church shuttles at the Carlton Kiosk at least 48 hours in advance. OUR SET TRANSPORTATION SCHEDULE Mondays 9:30 AM 9:30 a.m. Shopping Shuttle Banking can now be completed with the concierge. Sundays 9:00 AM - 1:00 PM We currently provide transportation to St. James Catholic Church, Davis United Methodist Church, Davis Lutheran Church, and Unitarian Universalist Church of Davis. Tuesdays & Thursdays: 9:00 a.m. - 5:00 p.m. The shuttle begins transportation to doctor appointments at 9:00 a.m. and returns to the community by 5:00 p.m. Transportation for appointments may be scheduled with the front desk in person or by calling (530) 564-7002. Doctor transportation is for appointments that are in Davis and scheduled 48 hours in advance. Transportation is subject to availability for appointments scheduled less than 48 hours in advance. Appointments outside of Davis and/or appointments requiring shuttle service outside of the 9:00 a.m. - 5:00 p.m. window on Tuesdays and Thursdays will be accomodated if possible but are not guaranteed. These appointments have a service charge of $13.00 per half hour of driving or waiting time (one half hour minimum, and $6.50 per quarter hour thereafter, rounding up). OUR CONCIERGE SERVICE We are piloting a brand new concierge style transportation service in which you sign up for our Concierge Driver to drive you where you want to go: errands, visits, etc! This program will develop and change over time, so we welcome your feedback and appreciate your flexibility and patience as we build it. 5 Days/Week: 9:00 AM - 4:30 PM The schedule is first come, first served, and you can book slots in advance. Rides in Davis are free! Outside of Davis, we will charge the standard $13/half hour fee listed above. The Concierge Driver can act as an escort for residents who need it for the standard $32.50/ half hour fee.
Amber Gustafson Executive Director Davis Department Heads Carina Kutternig Associate Director Dorthy Chao Medication Manager Lindsey Moret Memory Care Manager Andrew Moret Chef Jake Curri Dining Room Manager Emily Blanton Personal Care Coordinator Sergio Gomez Plant Operations Manager Eric DeMuth Resident Liaison Pamela Roy Personal Expressions Manager Coming in January Captain s Lunch Sign up at the front desk for our monthly lunch with Amber. Seats are first come, first served.
SUNDAY, JANUARY 1 THURSDAY, JANUARY 5 New Year s Day 9:00 AM - 1:00 PM ~ Church Shuttle (LOB) 9:00 AM ~ Bible Study (TR) 10:15 AM ~ Fabulous Fitness (AR) 11:00 AM ~ Trivia (LR) 1:00 PM ~ Quarter Bingo (AR) 2:30 PM ~ Sunday Matinee (TR) 3:00 PM ~ New Year s Resolution Workshop (LR) We ll work together to set realistic goals for the New Year! 4:00 PM ~ Afternoon Stroll (LOB) 6:30 PM ~ TV Time: The Sixties (TR) 10:15 AM ~ Zumba with Katelynn (LR) 11:00 AM ~ Jumbo Jenga (LR) 1:00 PM ~ Tai Chi & Qigong (AR) 2:30 PM ~ Jeopardy (LR) 3:30 PM ~ Singing Circle (LR) Lyrics are provided, and all voices are welcome! 6:30 PM ~ Thursday Theater (TR) MONDAY, JANUARY 2 FRIDAY, JANUARY 6 9:30 AM ~ Shopping Shuttle: Safeway & Rite Aid (LOB) 10:15 AM ~ Balance Bar Fitness (AR) 2:30 PM ~ Centerpiece Flower Arranging (DR) 3:30 PM ~ Coloring for Adults (AR) 4:00 PM ~ Tech Tutor: How To Use Your Comcast TV (TR) 6:00 PM ~ Evening Stroll (LOB) 6:30 PM ~ Movie Monday: New Releases (TR) 9:30-10:00 AM ~ Banking Hours (Front Desk) 10:15 AM ~ Chair Yoga (TR) 2:00 PM ~ Funny Money Bingo (AR) 3:00 PM ~ Men s Bridge Group (STU) 4:15 PM ~ Balance Bar Fitness (AR) 6:30 PM ~ Friday Night Flick: Residents Pick (TR) TUESDAY, JANUARY 3 SATURDAY, JANUARY 7 10:15 AM ~ Zumba with Katelynn (AR) 11:00 AM ~ Games Corner: Uno (LR) 1:00 PM ~ Word Games: Around the World (LR) 1:45 PM ~ Dime Bingo (AR) 3:15 PM ~ Watercolor Painting with Allison (AR) 4:00 PM ~ Happy Hour (LR) 6:30 PM ~ From Print to the Silver Screen (TR) WEDNESDAY, JANUARY 4 10:15 AM ~ Fitness Ball Workout (AR) 11:00 AM ~ Dakim Brain Fitness (STU) 3:00 PM ~ Ladies Bridge Group (STU) 3:15 PM ~ Chair Yoga (TR) 4:00 PM ~ Trivia (LR) 6:30 PM ~ Classic Film Series (TR) 10:15 AM ~ Zumba with Katelynn (AR) 1:00 PM ~ Stitching Circle (AR) 1:30 PM ~ Carlton Cooks: Melting Snowman Cookies (AR) 2:30 PM ~ Beanbag Baseball (LR) 3:30 PM ~ Balance Bar Fitness (AR) 4:00 PM ~ Fireside Cocktails, featuring live music by the Sweet G s (LR) 6:30 PM ~ Documentary Night (TR) LOCATION KEY 1st Floor: LOB = Lobby, C = Cafè, CY = Courtyard, LR = Living Room DR = Dining Room 2nd Floor: STU = Study, Salon TR = Theater Room, FC = Fitness Center 3rd Floor: AR = Activity Room, GR = Game Room
SUNDAY, JANUARY 8 THURSDAY, JANUARY 12 9:00 AM - 1:00 PM ~ Church Shuttle (LOB) 9:00 AM ~ Bible Study (TR) 10:15 AM ~ Fabulous Fitness (AR) 11:00 AM ~ Trivia (LR) 1:00 PM ~ Quarter Bingo (AR) 2:30 PM ~ Sunday Matinee (TR) 3:30 PM ~ Hand Massages (LR) 4:00 PM ~ Afternoon Stroll (LOB) 6:30 PM ~ TV Time: The Sixties (TR) 10:15 AM ~ Zumba with Katelynn (LR) 11:00 AM ~ On This Day in History (LR) 1:00 PM ~ Tai Chi & Qigong (AR) 2:30 PM ~ Jeopardy (LR) 3:30 PM ~ Programming Brainstorm Session (AR) 4:00 PM ~ Afternoon Stroll (LOB) 6:30 PM ~ Live! In the Living Room: Denny Colleret s Country Memories (LR) MONDAY, JANUARY 9 FRIDAY, JANUARY 13 Houseplant Appreciation Day 9:30 AM ~ Shopping Shuttle: Davis Co-op (LOB) 10:15 AM ~ Balance Bar Fitness (AR) 11:00 AM ~ Morning Stroll (LR) 2:30 PM ~ Centerpiece Flower Arranging (DR) 3:30 PM ~ DIY Succulent Gardens (AR) 6:30 PM ~ Movie Monday: New Releases (TR) Friday the 13th 9:30-10:00 AM ~ Banking Hours (Front Desk) 10:15 AM ~ Chair Yoga (TR) 1:30 PM ~ Hitchcock Horror Marathon #1 (TR) 2:00 PM ~ Funny Money Bingo (AR) 3:00 PM ~ Men s Bridge Group (STU) 4:15 PM ~ Balance Bar Fitness (AR) 6:30 PM ~ Hitchcock Horror Marathon #2 (TR) TUESDAY, JANUARY 10 SATURDAY, JANUARY 14 10:15 AM ~ Zumba with Katelynn (AR) 1:00 PM ~ Word Games: Word in a Word (LR) 1:45 PM ~ Dime Bingo (AR) 3:00 PM ~ December Book Club Discussion: Chabon s The Yiddish Policemen s Union (TR) 3:15 PM ~ Ceramics Class (AR) Please sign up at the Carlton Kiosk. 4:00 PM ~ Happy Hour (LR) 6:30 PM ~ From Print to the Silver Screen (TR) WEDNESDAY, JANUARY 11 10:00 AM ~ St. James Communion Service (TR) 10:15 AM ~ Fitness Ball Workout (AR) 11:00 AM ~ Dakim Brain Fitness (STU) 2:00 PM ~ Wii Bowling (Memory Care) Please ring the doorbell by the back elevator. 2:00 PM ~ OUTING: Tour of the UCD Mondavi Center (LOB) 3:00 PM ~ Poker with Jake and Eric (PDR) 6:30 PM ~ Youth Group Game Night (AR) 10:15 AM ~ Strength Training for Beginners (AR) 1:00 PM ~ Stitching Circle (AR) 2:00 PM ~ Tai Chi (AR) 2:30 PM ~ Beanbag Baseball (LR) 3:30 PM ~ Balance Bar Fitness (AR) 4:00 PM ~ Fireside Cocktails, featuring Jack Convery on the Banjo (LR) 6:30 PM ~ Documentary Night (TR) Join us for a tour of the UCD Mondavi Center Wednesday, January 11, 2:00 PM Departing from the Lobby Please sign up at the Carlton Kiosk
SUNDAY, JANUARY 15 THURSDAY, JANUARY 19 9:00 AM - 1:00 PM ~ Church Shuttle (LOB) 9:00 AM ~ Bible Study (TR) 10:15 AM ~ Fabulous Fitness (AR) 11:00 AM ~ Trivia (LR) 1:00 PM ~ Quarter Bingo (AR) 2:30 PM ~ Sunday Matinee (TR) 3:30 PM ~ Hand Massages (LR) 4:00 PM ~ Afternoon Stroll (LOB) 6:30 PM ~ TV Time: The Sixties (TR) 8:30 AM ~ Men s Breakfast at IHOP (LOB) 10:15 AM ~ Zumba with Katelynn (LR) 11:00 AM ~ On This Day in History (LR) 1:00 PM ~ Tai Chi & Qigong (AR) 2:30 PM ~ Jeopardy (LR) 3:30 PM ~ Hot Tea Social (LR) January is Hot Tea Month - let s celebrate by tasting some delicious varieties of tea! 6:00 PM ~ Scrabble Night (LR) 6:30 PM ~ Thursday Theater (TR) MONDAY, JANUARY 16 FRIDAY, JANUARY 20 Martin Luther King, Jr. Day 9:30 AM ~ Shopping Shuttle: CVS & Nugget (LOB) 10:15 AM ~ Balance Bar Fitness (AR) 2:30 PM ~ Centerpiece Flower Arranging (DR) 3:30 PM ~ We Are Moving to the Land of Freedom: A MLK, Jr. Day Discussion (TR) 6:00 PM ~ Evening Stroll (LOB) 6:30 PM ~ Movie Monday: New Releases (TR) Inauguration Day 9:30-10:00 AM ~ Banking Hours (Front Desk) 10:15 AM ~ Chair Yoga (TR) 2:00 PM ~ Funny Money Bingo (AR) 3:00 PM ~ Men s Bridge Group (STU) 4:15 PM ~ Balance Bar Fitness (AR) 6:30 PM ~ Friday Night Flick (TR) TUESDAY, JANUARY 17 SATURDAY, JANUARY 21 10:15 AM ~ Zumba with Katelynn (AR) 11:00 AM ~ Games Corner: Yahtzee (LR) 1:00 PM ~ Word Games: Around the World (LR) 1:45 PM ~ Dime Bingo (AR) 3:15 PM ~ Watercolor Painting with Allison (AR) 4:00 PM ~ Happy Hour (LR) 7:00 PM ~ Live! In the Living Room: The Davis High School Madrigals (LR) 10:15 AM ~ Strength Training for Beginners (AR) 1:00 PM ~ Stitching Circle (AR) 1:30 PM ~ Carlton Carwash (AR) Bring your walkers and wheels for a wash! 2:30 PM ~ Beanbag Baseball (LR) 4:00 PM ~ Fireside Cocktails, featuring the Easy Living Trio (LR) 6:30 PM ~ Documentary Night (TR) WEDNESDAY, JANUARY 18 Winnie the Pooh Day 10:15 AM ~ Fitness Ball Workout (AR) 11:00 AM ~ Learn to Draw Winnie the Pooh (STU) 3:00 PM ~ Ladies Bridge Group (STU) 3:30 PM ~ Carlton Speaker Series: Lois Richter s Winter Birds in Davis (TR) 6:30 PM ~ Classic Film Series (TR) January is Hot Tea Month! Let s celebrate by tasting some delicious varieties of tea! Hot Tea Social Thursday, January 19 th 3:30 PM First Floor Living Room
SUNDAY, JANUARY 22 THURSDAY, JANUARY 26 9:00 AM - 1:00 PM ~ Church Shuttle (LOB) 9:00 AM ~ Bible Study (TR) 10:15 AM ~ Fabulous Fitness (AR) 11:00 AM ~ Trivia (LR) 1:00 PM ~ Quarter Bingo (AR) 2:30 PM ~ Sunday Matinee (TR) 3:30 PM ~ Hand Massages (LR) 4:00 PM ~ Afternoon Stroll (LOB) 6:30 PM ~ TV Time: The Sixties (TR) 9:30 AM ~ On This Day in History (LR) 10:15 AM ~ Zumba with Katelynn (LR) 11:00 AM ~ Jumbo Jenga (LR) 1:00 PM ~ Tai Chi & Qigong (AR) 2:30 PM ~ Lightning Round Jeopardy (LR) 3:00 PM ~ Department Head Announcements (AR) 4:00 PM ~ Afternoon Stroll (LOB) 6:00 PM ~ Scrabble Night (LR) 6:30 PM ~ Thursday Theater (TR) MONDAY, JANUARY 23 FRIDAY, JANUARY 27 9:30 AM ~ Shopping Shuttle: Target (LOB) 10:15 AM ~ Balance Bar Fitness (AR) 2:30 PM ~ Centerpiece Flower Arranging (DR) 3:30 PM ~ Guess That Neighbor Social (LR) Bring a picture of yourself from your youth, and we ll all guess the resident in each picture! 6:30 PM ~ Movie Monday: New Releases (TR) 9:30-10:00 AM ~ Banking Hours (Front Desk) 10:15 AM ~ Chair Yoga (TR) 2:00 PM ~ Funny Money Bingo (AR) 3:00 PM ~ Men s Bridge Group (STU) 4:15 PM ~ Balance Bar Fitness (AR) 6:30 PM ~ Friday Night Flick: Resident Pick (TR) TUESDAY, JANUARY 24 SATURDAY, JANUARY 28 National Compliment Day 10:15 AM ~ Zumba with Katelynn (AR) 11:00 AM ~ Send a Compliment! (LR) We ll write anonymous compliments and deliver them to our neighbors. 1:00 PM ~ Word Games: Word in a Word (LR) 1:45 PM ~ Dime Bingo (AR) 3:15 PM ~ Ceramics Class (AR) Please sign up at the Carlton Kiosk. 4:00 PM ~ Happy Hour (LR) 6:30 PM ~ From Print to the Silver Screen (TR) WEDNESDAY, JANUARY 25 10:00 AM ~ St. James Communion Service (STU) Please note Communion will be in the study today. 10:15 AM ~ Fitness Ball Workout (AR) 11:00 AM ~ Dakim Brain Fitness (STU) 3:00 PM ~ Ladies Bridge Group (STU) 3:15 PM ~ The Price is Right - LIVE! (AR) 6:30 PM ~ Classic Film Series (TR) Chinese New Year 10:15 AM ~ Strength Training for Beginners (AR) 1:00 PM ~ Stitching Circle (LR) 1:30 PM ~ DIY Chinese New Year Lanterns (AR) 2:30 PM ~ Beanbag Baseball (LR) 3:15 PM ~ Balance Bar Fitness (AR) 4:00 PM ~ Fireside Cocktails, featuring Four Sax Only (LR) 6:30 PM ~ Documentary Night (TR) January s Book Club Selection The Boys in the Boat By Daniel James Brown Copies of the book are available at the front desk.
SUNDAY, JANUARY 29 9:00 AM - 1:00 PM ~ Church Shuttle (LOB) 9:00 AM ~ Bible Study (TR) 10:15 AM ~ Fabulous Fitness (AR) 1:00 PM ~ Quarter Bingo (AR) 2:30 PM ~ Sunday Matinee (TR) 3:30 PM ~ Meet n Greet Social (TR) An informal time to meet your new neighbors! 6:00 PM ~ OUTING: Les Ballets Trockadero de Monte Carlo at UCD Mondavi Center (LOB) 6:30 PM ~ TV Time: The Sixties (TR) MONDAY, JANUARY 30 9:30 AM ~ Shopping Shuttle: Trader Joe s (LOB) 10:15 AM ~ Balance Bar Fitness (AR) 11:00 AM ~ Morning Stroll (LOB) 2:00-2:30 PM ~ Blood Pressure/Weight Clinic (TR) 2:30 PM ~ Centerpiece Flower Arranging (DR) 3:30 PM ~ Coloring for Adults (AR) 6:30 PM ~ Movie Monday: New Releases (TR) TUESDAY, JANUARY 31 10:15 AM ~ Balance Bar Fitness (AR) 11:00 AM ~ Games Corner: Yahtzee (LR) 1:00 PM ~ Word Games: Word in a Word (LR) 2:00 PM ~ December Birthday Party (LR) 3:00 PM ~ Prize Bingo (AR) 4:00 PM ~ Happy Hour, featuring Ken Kemmerling on the Piano (LR) 6:30 PM ~ From Print to the Silver Screen (TR) Join us for Sunday evening TV Time: The Sixties This Emmy-nominated documentary miniseries explores the tumultuous decade that changed America forever. Poker with Jake and Eric Yankee Swap Gift Exchange A Visit from Santa Davis Chorale Concert LOCATION KEY 1st Floor: LOB = Lobby, C = Cafè, CY = Courtyard, LR = Living Room DR = Dining Room 2nd Floor: STU = Study, Salon TR = Theater Room, FC = Fitness Center 3rd Floor: AR = Activity Room, GR = Game Room
Here we are going into the second quarter of the rest of our lives and I m wondering how many of us have learned to take charge of our own futures? It s so easy to just bump along, taking what comes and wondering why the same things keep happening to us. How many of us fully realize the power that we carry around with us, mostly untapped and deteriorating from nonuse. Many of you will know that I am referring to brainpower. rather than allowing our minds to run free with worry, anger, and other negative emotions that minimize our chance to be healthy, gain peace of mind, and have lasting happiness. There is no magic formula or age limit. We just have to take charge and become the CEO of our own lives. How do we do that? I am the CEO of My Life Many people start out their day with prayer and meditation and end it the same way. In addition to prayer and meditation we can examine our thought process to insure that we have not formed the habit of looking at life through negativity. Here s one way to test yourself : Ask yourself if you see a glass of liquid half full (positive thinker) or half empty (negative thinker). Also, being critical and not accepting of others comes from negative thinking. Seeing the good in people and being able to compliment and help them when needed is being a positive thinker. Another positive attitude shows when we are friendly to a new person who enters your environment, such as when a new resident moves in to your community. Remember how it feels to be the new kid on the block. Those feelings seldom change just because we are older. Our brain is like a computer. It is waiting for us to learn how to use it and then it will perform for us. Our brain/mind needs specific instructions from us so that it knows exactly how we want it to perform. It doesn t care if our input is negative or positive; it will perform either way. That s why it is so very important to insure that the input is positive. Positive input comes from everything we do and think. It includes the people we see every day, the movies we watch, the books and newspaper we read, the amount of world news we watch, and etc. I know that often life becomes difficult, as we grow more seasoned. Loneliness and illness are not much fun to live with, but again, we make the choice in how we are going to deal with them. First of all, I encourage you to focus on and be grateful for the time you had with your loved one never focus on the loss. Secondly, never take possession of an illness by referring to it as My. Treat it as the uninvited guest that it is, look at it as an inconvenience and determine to live your life in a positive manner. One of my favorite quotes from Dr. Wayne Dyer goes something like this: I d say that sums it up pretty well. As always, we are left to make our own free choices and we are also left to live with the results of those choices. I have found that it takes less energy to live a positive life and to be the CEO of my own life.. Einstein said, "We cannot solve our problems using the same thinking we used when we created them.