Caregiving: From Mystery to Meaning Sara Honn Qualls, Ph.D. UCCS Gerontology Center and Lane Center for Academic Health Sciences

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1 Caregiving: From Mystery to Meaning Sara Honn Qualls, Ph.D. UCCS Gerontology Center and Lane Center for Academic Health Sciences

2 There are only four kinds of people in this world Those who have been caregivers, those who currently are caregivers, those who will be caregivers, those who will need caregivers. Former First Lady Rosalyn Carter

3 Mystery #1: What is happening?

4 Care Recipient s Problem Illness Functional Challenges

5 Caregiver s Experience Your Current Concern Level of Distress Meaning and Purpose

6 Changes in Contexts of Care Your Life Broader family context Care service structures

7 Metaphors: Career or Journey Caregiving has a temporal dimension that varies with the illness/disability Caregiving career has key transition points (e.g., onset of direct care, institutionalization) Lifespan context for caregiving - a continuum of care 7

8 Mystery #2: What do I need to do now? It depends.

9 Family CG Stages Illness Onset Pre-CG Family Transition to CG CG Period Early CG Middle CG Late CG Patient Death Post-CG 9

10 Pre-Caregiving Illness Onset Pre-CG Family Uncertainty about observed changes No specific problem has been named 10

11 Transition to Caregiving Illness Onset Pre-CG Family Transition to CG Common reference to the problem Problem may be given a name Adjustments in family have not generated any significant role change; operations as usual with more work 11

12 Career Phase I Now is the time to Get evaluation Start monitoring and investigating 12

13 Senior Housing Care Management Leisure Services Home Delivered Meals Telephone Reassurance Information & Assistance Transportation Respite Care Caregiver Services Financial Assistance

14 Services Options Housing Social services Legal services Family supports Health care `

15 CG Career Phase II Illness Onset Pre-CG Family Transition to CG CG Period Early CG Middle CG 15

16 Caregiving is neither linear nor universal 16

17 Early CG Illness Onset Pre-CG Family Transition to CG CG Period Early CG 17

18 Hands on care IADL s Transportation Medication monitoring Shopping Appointments Food preparation Finances ADL s Bathing Dressing Toileting Transferring Ambulating 18

19 When is it time for more services? How do I know whether he really needs help with cleaning the house? managing appointments? transportation? taking medications? What do I do if she refuses help but ends up sick because she doesn t take her medicine properly? How do I know if she is vulnerable to fraud? financial coercion? 19

20 When is it time to restrict her independence? When does she become a dangerous driver? She s never had an accident. She gets lost all of the time and asks strangers for directions even to familiar places. When is it too risky to let him live alone? What if he falls? His neighbors are worried about him, should I be? He won t even discuss moving out of the home even though I find cigarette burns on the furniture and sheets. How can I keep her from sending checks to every appeal on TV or in the mail? 20

21 NOW is the time to Consciously care for self CG well-being is critical to both CG and CR Exercise, nutrition, nurturance Use choice to stay free from feeling trapped Ask for help 21

22 Middle CG Illness Onset Pre-CG Family Transition to CG CG Period Early CG Middle CG 22

23 NOW is the time to Start Partnering Learn about specific elder care services Identify financial resources and entitlements Make a care plan (short-term, long-term) Use formal as well as informal help Play to your strengths Communicate with other family members 23

24 Driving Informal Decisions require Repeated conversations among the key players Up-to-Date data on capacity Clearly negotiated structures for decision-making Clear values Finances Housing 24

25 CG Career Phase III Illness Onset Pre-CG Family Transition to CG CG Period Early CG Middle CG Late CG Patient Death Post-CG 25

26 Late CG Illness Onset Pre-CG Family Transition to CG CG Period Early CG Middle CG Late CG Patient Death Post-CG 26

27 When is it time for hospice or palliative care? Hospice start within 6 months of death Focus is on choice about how to live and how to die Available to nursing home residents, at home, or in a residence Benefit extra staff assistance, family support/guidance, expertise in pain management People wait too long and only get a few days of help Palliative care or Comfort care Focus on quality of life rather than length of life Helps craft a dying process that fits your values Can reduce medicalization of end of life care and death, if you want 27

28 NOW is the time to prepare for death, dying, and bereavement Reflect on how you want him/her to die -> Who, what, when, where, how -> How do today s choices shape the dying process? -> How do you communicate with him/her about dying? Focus on quality of life as it is experienced by CR Anticipate death rituals what do you value/need? Consider the CG s future life after CR death -> If possible, build bridges to the future 28

29 Post-CG Illness Onset Pre-CG Family Transition to CG CG Period Early CG Middle CG Late CG Patient Death Post-CG 29

30 Family Tasks Create closure after death: estate, family dynamics, care arrangements Re-create a life structure without formal providers, caregiver-imposed life activities, and emotional demands Grieve Re-connect with other relationships, rebalancing after imbalance of CG period

31 NOW is the time to reconnect with my on hold self Inventory my core self what is depleted, missing, injured, starved? Grieve for what has been lost in the relationship and other aspects of life Identify sources of joy that can be renewed Value the gift of giving care Begin to look forward again 31

32 Mystery #3: What gives the journey meaning?

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35 Connections and Inter-Dependence

36 Mindfulness Engagement in health and life Support maximal functioning Establish benchmarks/milestones that measure facets of life you value Anticipate next transitions

37 Same as at any other point in the lifespan we garner hope from - Meaning Presence Connection Inter-Dependence

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